Nervous system patterns Part II – safety, self-compassion and making sense of subconscious loops

This topic of nervous system patterns, subconscious loops, emotion getting stuck in the body…it’s a BIG one! This is Part II, taking off from the first video we released a few weeks ago. Please click the link above to watch that one, though this one will probably still make sense if you watch it as a stand alone.

In this video Stefan shares some of this story regarding one of the biggest loops that he’s working to interrupt and change: not feeling worthy, or said another way never feeling good enough.

Our deepest fears are certainly reflected back to us by our bodies.

If you believe you’re not worthy, if you believe you’re always disappointed…you’ll likely create situations where those beliefs are reflected by your body. With Stefan, his fear of rejection played out with his body and pain via knee pain and back pain that were persistent despite what he believed were solid efforts on his part. But what he was actually doing was trying hard for a few days, all the while afraid his body would reject his efforts, and then he’d quit because “this didn’t work just like everything else hasn’t.”

He was putting half-hearted effort in because he EXPECTED to be let down. When he changed his strategy to commit to foam rolling without any expectations at all, just to find out what happened…that’s when everything changed. Listen to him tell this story in the video above 🙂

If you’re struggling with a loop that’s getting repeated and you feel stuck…please know, first of all, that you created this pattern to find SAFETY.

So please have some self-compassion. None of us create patterns like this because we actually want to be miserable. We’re wired for SURVIVAL. Your brain was designed to keep you alive at all costs, and it would rather you be in pain (physically or otherwise) than dead.

Please share your own story below, or an “aha” from watching this video. Let’s connect around this topic and inspire each other to let go of the past so we can be who we were all born to be!

  • Gena says:

    I have just recently been delving deeper into these ideas. I’ve long had a general sense of if, but had no clue what to do with it. What you are talking about ties in so neatly with German New Medicine, another thing I just recently discovered, just days before finding you. My mind is kind of stuck in a loop right now, trying to identify that one main thing. Probably not feeling good enough. Two of my lifelong patterns have been needing control and reading everything I can about a subject, but never doing anything about it. Not sure if these things go together. I was recently diagnosed with stage 4 breast cancer after a femur fracture. Mets to the bone created a whole in my femur, causing it to break and necessitating a rod being placed in the leg. My leg is healing well, the bone is regrowing, but I still have a good deal of pain in that hip and knee. My doctors say I’m healthy, except for the cancer, which doesn’t make sense. For years I’ve avoided chemicals, gone bra-free as mush as possible, etc. but here I am. So I really do believe it’s due to trapped emotional traumas and their resulting patterns. All of this has put a tremendous strain on my relationship. Enough so that just last night I was seriously trying to figure out where I could go and how, to leave it. I would love to hear what you think.

    • Hi Gena – thank you for sharing some of your story and struggle. I’m sorry you’re facing off with cancer, that must feel scary. The best way for me to truly help people is 1-1, or in a group course online. We do have a brand new course launching in a few days, I hope you’ll consider joining me. Otherwise, you could think about doing 1-1 work with me by phone or Skype, and we could look at nervous system patterns, talk about the best way for you to approach fascia release for you given your exact circumstances and make sure you feel confident in your direction for self care. If you’re interested, please write me at [email protected]

      I’m rooting for you either way, and I believe healing is available for all of us…including you.

  • Rob says:

    Wow !!
    Great investigation.
    Our primal mind too much defend our identity and build walls around. Everyone is vunrelable but we treat ourselves without compassion.
    I highly recommend this article it’s similiar things http://joeylott.com/boldly-being-yourself/

    Thank You !!

  • Debbie Kora says:

    I can’t find a link to the first part Elisha-love listening to your things-always had a dream of spending a whole week out camping and riding in Montana!

  • Gloria Gardner says:

    Thanks for the information on nervous system patterns, etc. I am interested in learning more.

    • You’re welcome Gloria, thank you for reading/watching and your interest in learning more! I’ll definitely be sharing more on this topic 🙂

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